Who doesn’t have an email inbox overflowing with crap that we neither care about nor bother reading? I know that mine is inundated with notices from American Eagle, LLBean, The Vitamin Shoppe, Old Navy, LivingSocial, Groupon and Goldstar and, admittedly, I have managed to miss “important” emails amongst the clutter just like everybody else. Periodically I will spend some time “unsubscribing” (which, incidentally, doesn’t always work but is remarkably easy to do) and experience, if even temporarily, a little bit of accord in my inbox. I, along with throngs of other people, do so without fanfare, malice or the need to draw attention.
Well, apparently unsubscribing is meant to be shared as last week I received, in the comment section of this blog , a note that simply said:
Please delete my email address
Upon initial glance I thought it was spam until I looked further down the page and noticed that it was from someone whom I have known for better than thirty years. I wasn’t entirely surprised by the request (although I had necessarily anticipated it) but I was surprised by the fact that this someone would take the time to submit a comment as opposed to just, well, unsubscribing. And, of course, it made me wonder why.
My blog can be unsubscribed to quite simply. At the bottom of the email it states, as clearly as humanly possible, to click here and voila, you are done. Frankly, unless I am terribly bored and have scads of time on my hands, I will never scour or even peruse the subscriber list and, therefore, will not even know that you have taken your leave. (No offense.) By now (as in 2014) I know of no one who does not know this little trick. Why, then, did my former subscriber choose to not just click the button but instead made sure to let me know that she could no longer tolerate seeing my posts arrive in her inbox? Hmmmm.
So I, ever the over-thinker, have been contemplating this for days. (To be clear, my ruminations are less a function of caring much about this particular person, more about the human condition.) My conclusions:
- This person (or anyone who opts to draw attention to an unsubscribing) doesn’t like/enjoy/appreciate/understand/have time for/give a shit about/know how to read what I write;
- Wants me to know that she feels all of the above;
- Doesn’t understand how to click on a button that says unsubscribe;
- Cannot “tolerate the ambiguity” of the story;
- Is sending me a thinly veiled message of her disinterest/discomfort/disdain/discomfort.
- She wants me to know how she feels about me…nothing to do with the blog at all.
Contrary to how it might appear (given my dedication of an entire blog post to this transaction) I truly (and proudly) do not care that she is over the blog. A few years ago (oh, who am I kidding? A few months ago) it may have upset, angered or concerned me. I might have even shot back a snippy email. But no, all I did was send a very friendly email with instructions how to unsubscribe along with well wishes to her and her’s which was only slightly irreverent.
Now I am off to covertly unsubscribe to the emails taunting me in my inbox.
p.s. I just checked to see if she had, indeed, “deleted her email address”…and, in fact, she has.
 If you do not know about Goldstar.com you should. Go check it out. You’re welcome.
 Um, have you met me?
 I am telling you this as part of the story and, to be clear, not as a suggestion.
 Although, to be honest, I have.
 That is the most I am going to let on who this person is.
 Note: I cannot “delete” a subscriber; it has to be done from their end. So, armed with that information, you are free to do so. Although I hope you won’t.