Angelina: My Hero

I will unashamedly confess that I have a girl crush on Angelina.  She is, brave, talented, driven, accomplished, insanely cool, wildly accepting and, of course breathtakingly gorgeous (Aside:  In the picture here she had the chicken pox.  Seriously, who looks like that when they have the chicken pox?  Angelina, that’s who.)  And I thank her for making so little of something that so many find so huge and so scary.

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When she and Brad realized the sincerity with which Shiloh insisted she is John they had a choice: go underground or give their child a voice that many (no, most) others in his shoes do not have.  They could easily have quelled the story.  So, too, could they have told him that their celebrity and fame stood to be tarnished by such an announcement.  And they could have used their myriad “people” to keep it out of the press.  They did none of those things.  In fact, they let loose and sent a very clear message: who the fuck cares?

They are, without competition, the coolest people alive.

The matter-of-fact attitude of the Pitts is utterly fantastic.  Their willingness to allow a person who they chose to bring into the world to live authentically and not according to script should be a lesson to every parent, no, every person, who ever happens to comes into contact with someone different from themselves.

The Pitts are not worried about John’s happiness or whether this is a “phase”.  They are worried about the very real fact that not everyone in the world sees things the way they do and that John definitely faces different challenges than Shiloh would.  They worry about the assholes that will pop up and create problems for their kid just because he doesn’t have a penis.  Why on earth it matters to anyone else is a mystery that will likely not be solved in our lifetime, but perhaps Angie and Brad’s unbridled acceptance will put a dent in things.

I love that the arguably coolest people alive used their power the way that they did.  They were not defensive, did not feel a need to further explain the decision of their family and are doing what good parents do: walking alongside their child, helping him to find his way in the world.

Your kid might not be transgender, but I am willing to bet that they have something that makes them unique and presents them with challenges: maybe they are autistic or ADHD, or have huge ears or just happen to have an obnoxious personality (what? it happens)…do yourself a favor and take a page from Angie and Brad’s playbook and support the hell out of them.  Teach them to accept rather than reject.  Remind them to be kind and empathetic.  And then follow their lead.

The Pitts are my heroes.  Make them yours, too.

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12 thoughts on “Angelina: My Hero

  1. What a beautiful wonderful lady Angelina is and what a wonderful kind gentleman John is. Thank you for sharing their story.

  2. Julie, SO interesting. Just this afternoon Richard and I were discussing this very topic, and commenting that the celebrity status of the Jolie-Pitt family very publicly accepting and supporting and loving John no matter how he identifies can only help to further the awareness, and hopefully acceptance, of the trans community. Your artful commentary on the topic is fantastic.

  3. You are so very right! I loved that “red carpet” pic of Brad and the kids at Mom’s new film and how they were dressed. Brad and Angie will truly open people’s eyes by being so cool! Bruce Jenner is working on it from the adult side . Wonderful for the rest of us to get this visibility which starts conversation in the mainstream world. Nice post!

  4. Thank you for your writing. The Jolie-Pitt family rocks. We all get to choose our own identity and real love allows that. It should always be that simple.

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